Mental Health

Going to talk therapy and the benefits of it.

So before we get started, today’s topic is about talk therapy. Whilst, yes the kind I have experienced is more centred around rape and sexual abuse today I am aiming to be a bit broader with my explanation seeing as it was just a general paperwork session. For this particular post, there is no further mention of the triggers only the charity in which that run those counselling/therapy sessions.

So, what is talk therapy?

Talk therapy is basically a safe session where you and a trained counsellor can sit down and talk about how you’re feeling, what’s going on your mind and what’s been happening. It can be about the past as well as the present. It’s usually a set time in a safe place where you’re free to open up without fear of being judged. (Trust me, that seriously helps) 

These sessions can help you understand yourself and your feelings better than you could alone. They even somehow piece together everything giving you some help in making sense of everything yourself. You can even learn how to overcome or at least handle these negative thoughts, behaviours and emotions. In the best case scenario sometimes they help you understand the process of your negative behaviours and help you combat them changing them into something more useful. states this on this page about what talking therapies are:

“Talking therapies involve talking to someone who is trained to help you deal with your negative feelings. They can help anyone who is experiencing distress. You do not have to be told by a doctor that you have a mental health problem to be offered or benefit from a talking therapy.”

Which, in all honesty, makes perfect sense because you don’t just have to suffer from a mental illness to gain from a talking therapy. They can be useful for all sorts of problems from anger, stress to even as much as grief from a loss of a loved one. There are many reasons why someone would need to be able to work through something with someone that’s basically a stranger to them, however, mental illness is still high up there within that list.

Types of talk therapy

There are so many types of talk therapies out there such as:

Art Therapy – which I’ve covered a little bit in this post.

Behavioural Therapy – which explores how you act.
More information can be found here.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) – which explores your thoughts and the way that you think.
More information can be found here.

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT) – which explores opposite positions and how they may exist together.
More information can be found here.

Humanistic Therapy -which focuses on the person as a whole, with mind body and soul in mind.
More information can be found here.

Mindfulness-Based Therapy – which focuses on becoming aware of your thoughts and feelings and accepting them with mindfulness activities.
More information can be found here.

Person-Centred Therapy – which focuses on your strengths to promote personal growth and improve relationships.
More information can be found here.

Psychoanalytic Therapy  – which goes deep down into unconscious rooted thoughts that stem from childhood.
More information can be found here.

Psychodynamic Therapy – which explores how your unconscious thoughts may be affecting the way that you act.
More information can be found here.

Solution Focused Therapy – which focuses on the future rather than about the past.
More information can be found here.

I’ve referred to my sessions as both therapy and counselling in this post and probably will interchange the term throughout. The truth is there isn’t much difference between counselling and therapy besides basically who you’re talking to and the approach that they are taking. (in my personal opinion) These, as I have said in many previous posts aren’t a one size fits all. Mindfulness may work for someone else but sound like a load of garbage and not be helpful for you. Whilst, you may suit CBT it could be completely wrong for someone else. It’s all a bit trial and error and just finding the approaches that suit us.

How can it help us?

So, to me anyway, talking therapies are great.

Honestly, whichever route you take. It will most likely help you at least a little.  Personally, I was finding it useful to explore some of what was going on in my head. It actually really is interesting when you notice what events in your life have become ‘triggers’ for your mind to flip out and act the way that it is. You can then go to explore how these ‘triggers’ affect you from how you act, to how you think and so forth.

Whilst, yes, talk therapy can be very draining because it opens up wounds and in some cases explore some pain that you’d long forgotten it’s still very beneficial and I’d recommend it.  I wouldn’t have been so open to going again and trying if it wasn’t. Whilst, okay. In my current state I’d probably not cope with other forms of therapy/counselling I was adamant I’d give this one a go now because I feel it may help me at least a bit in the long run. has this article about talk therapies and right at the start, it opens up with this which is a major benefit all ready to talk therapy. This very much emphasises why we should be at least giving this a go and giving our attention to it. (Not just pretending to care as *ahem* a certain person did in their teenage years)

“Psychotherapy, or talk therapy, can play a critical role in treating many emotional and mental health conditions such as depression and bipolar disorder. According to a new study, even a few sessions with a therapist can lower the risk of suicide among at-risk individuals.”

Letting steam off by venting, crying or even constructively talking to and working with another human being can help immensely. It can feel like a weight is lifted off of your shoulders, a weight that some people have had to bear for far too long without help. Even if you spend half of a session crying because you’ve found something that has ‘triggered’ you that much… you’ve still made some progress because you’ve found something that may need to be touched on and worked upon in later sessions.

Like I talked about in this post, socialising is a great help with your recovery process and talk therapy is a major way of socialising because you’re working on issues that need to be worked on. You’re working towards your recovery in so many ways in that session alone and socialising is also one. Even if it’s all you can handle for that day… you’ve done something and you’ve made a major step forward even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time.

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My story and how my first session back went

So, yeah my story. I guess I should follow suit like my other posts and give you guys this.

Well, yeah. I was extremely anxious about going to this session. I don’t know why I didn’t think that it would be a paperwork session considering it has been so long but there you go, it was. Me and my counsellor did have a nice chat. It was nice to get back into that sort of flow again. To be honest, I know she gets how I work. I swear. (No, I haven’t on this blog but in real life, I’m worse than a sailor) So if I’m very frustrated or I cant word something I’ll probably get it out in a bit of a profane way just to get it out and then work around that with her. It worked before and I know it’s going to work again as I don’t need to bite my tongue.

Anyway, I admitted to her about how the last few months have been and obviously had to talk about my own risks. Whilst, yes, you can say I’m ‘at risk’ there are factors in place to protect me and I am kind of being a bit better about things. So, I’m not full on at risk if you get me?
She understood anyway. She did bring up something very interesting that I honestly hadn’t thought about. Well, I had but not in ‘that’ way.

She suggested that maybe I’m suffering from a form of PTSD from what I had been through for the time I was with my ex. I mean it’s been years since I’ve left him yet I still feel trapped in that thought and behaviour pattern. Yet I’m always looking over my shoulder as if he’s going to be there. Yet, I’m still having ‘hallucinations’ in a sense that he’s there when he’s not. I have brought that up with my CPN anyway and hopefully, I can be put on a waiting list for that therapy because apparently, it is like a 2-year list. (whew.. well, no one said recovery was going to happen overnight now did they?)

I’m going to do a little research on that myself because that’ll be yet another thing on my care plan, another thing for me to focus on working towards with my recovery and yet another thing to add to my own list.

I get these counselling sessions from New Pathways, a registered charity who do focus on rape and sexual abuse counselling. I was referred by my GP years ago back when I lived in the valleys. However, they do have a few offices around Wales. Merthyr Tydfil and Cardiff being two that I know of for sure.

So who are New Pathways?

Like I just said, they are a charity which focuses on counselling focused on rape and sexual abuse. However, they are for women, men and children who have been subject to such things. To date, according to their website their youngest client has been 3 years old and their oldest was 90 years old.  So they are very much used to people of every age and background.

They offer a Sexual Assult Referral Centre, Talk Therapy, Advocacy, Support and training.

Whilst, yes they do have a long waiting list and I waited originally about 2ish years before I was even seen. It’s worth the wait because their volunteers/counsellors do care. They’re amazing at what they do. I also noticed on tuesday that they do mini confrences for people on their waiting list so they can have some information and support whilst waiting for their one to one support.

They are truly an amazing charity and you can find out more about them here.

So yeah, talk therapy is a very useful tool and my one with new pathways is happening weekly for however many sessions I have left so we’ll see how this goes.

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– Gem

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Hi! I'm Gemma, a mental health and recovery journey blogger! My blog focuses on the effects of mental illness and the entire recovery process.


  • Sleepy Mama

    This is the first time I’ve learned about Talk Therapy but then again, it’s completely understandable how therapeutic it would be. Just when you are feeling all sorts, then you just talk it out. Hopefully, you feel better after your session, depressions about ex’s are the worst feeling. Feels like you just can’t get over it for a while then it will start to get better. 😀

    • Misfitmuser

      I thought I’d do a brief explanation on what they are, what kinds there are of them because it’s all well and good doing post about talk therapy sessions I’ve had but if people don’t know what they are or much about them I think it helps them to understand. Thankyou!

    • Misfitmuser

      I just thought I’d be a bit informative about it because well, it’s better than just talking about it and not explaining there are so many more types!
      Thankyou though x

  • Monidipa Dutta

    Talk therapy (also known as psychotherapy), psychology. can be an important part of treatment for depression or bipolar disorder. A good therapist or psychologist can help you cope with feelings, problem solve and change behavior patterns that may contribute to your symptoms. I am a psychologist too. And I would say good work.

    • Misfitmuser

      Wow thanks! This means alot. I know it will help in the long run hence why I’m finally ready to open up and work with the therapist/whatever help I get.
      I do agree, it’s a great tool that people don’t generally appreciate. 🙂

  • Nina Nichols

    I think Talk Therapy would benefit all people. No matter how strong a person is, trying to bottle inside painful feelings can be detrimental to health.

  • Rhian westbury

    I think therapy can be such a huge help for some people who need it. And it’s so nice to have the opportunity for people to be able to let go of what’s eating them up inside x

    • Misfitmuser

      very sorry! Only now noticed Akismet thought this was spam! There are so many. It’s always worth trying others if some aren’t working as what works for others might not for you and vice versa. I haven’t tried some of the others but I have been doing my own research as mindfulness hasn’t been too helpful with me however… I prefer being technical so maybe CBT/DBT may help me. Give them a look into it’ll be worth it!

  • Angelle

    Talk therapy is such a needed and appreciated service offered by mental health professionals. Talking offers clarity and affords the client with a means of understanding the past and in turn, find healing and a newfound peace.

  • David Elliott

    That’s great you have been able to get yourself some help in this area. I know I have had issues with my own ex I probably need to deal with which I haven’t handled. Therapy helps but you have to find the right therapist I think.

    • Misfitmuser

      Oh that’s for sure. You need to find the right one. But the point is to keep trying until you do. Something I’ve learned after being a stubborn teenager and all this happening to me now. Thankyou though.

  • Michele Dennis

    This is a very informative introduction to the various forms of therapies available. I myself have used a couple when I was younger after surviving some pretty traumatic experiences as a child. They definitely were helpful in learning how to deal and cope in the aftermath of those experiences.

    • Misfitmuser

      Thankyou. I want to provide options and information for others as some might say they’ve tried therapy but only tried one form not knowing there are so many more types out there and one might just click! I know in terms of my issues, I need a few different approaches. However, the talking at the moment is helping.

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